How to be Single on Valentine’s Day

January 17, 2021

There is no denying that the moment New Year's Day celebrations end the next big calendar event is Valentine's Day. We're only in week three of the new year and I'm already seeing the memes and promotions. Valentine's Day is an extravagant affair for some couples while for others it is not a big deal. To be single on Valentine's Day can be a bit of a downer. This is mainly because the emphasis is placed on relationships and being treated by that special someone. The day is generally promoted to happy, loved up couples who have no qualms about flaunting their relationships and sometimes many gifts on this day. Being single on Valentine's Day may not seem great at first but it can be exhilarating. It all depends on your outlook. You can spend the day moping around, feeling sorry for yourself or you can make the best of the situation. Keep reading to find out how you can enjoy Valentine's Day as a single person.

Treat Yourself

No rule says you can't spend on yourself on Valentine's Day. What better way to improve your mood than with some retail therapy. When you are single on V-Day you don't have to worry about getting a gift for your valentine so you can spend that extra money on yourself. Don't be afraid to splurge a little. Think of it as your pre-or post-birthday gift to yourself. Treating yourself is not limited to shopping. You can get your hair and nails done. Nothing adds confidence like a new hairstyle. Visit the spa and get a massage or since Covid-19 is still a thing bring the spa to you. Get the scented candles, the DIY masks and a bottle of wine and treat yourself to a day of self-care and relaxation.

Netflix and Fill

I know I have mentioned binging movies and series before in a previous post or two. But I am mentioning it again because it is one of my favourite past time activities. I know for a fact that there is at least one series or movie you've been wanting to watch. (Bridgerton has only eight episodes) *hint hint*. V-Day this year will be on a Sunday, so you have a whole day aside from church to watch movies or T.V. series. On the plus side movies are a great way to escaping reality. You can even choose a particular theme and watch movies that fit the category. It isn't binging if there is no food involved so make sure you stock up on all the snacks. If you started 2021 aiming to get healthy you can opt for healthier snacks or make this a guilt-free day and indulge. You can also cook your favourite meal and enjoy your very own dinner and a movie.

Hang Out With Friends

If you are lucky, you won't be the only single person in your friend group. Having other single friends makes it easier to enjoy Valentine's Day without a significant other. Call your friends for a get-together. Being around your friends will help you feel better as you will realize that you are not alone. Your friends will stop you from going through photos of relationships past and prevent you from torturing yourself even more. You will, however, get to spend the day chatting, laughing and sharing stories over drinks. Virtual parties are a thing so hanging with friends is still an option even in our current situation. You might be surprised that this helps a friend even more than it helps you.

Sweat It Out

Being single on Valentine's Day means there will be a lot of pent-up emotions and feelings. You can put all this energy to use by busting a sweat. Wake up early and go for a morning run or walk. You'll get to clear your mind while enjoying the outdoors and the fresh air will do wonders. Some gyms are still closed and others are not yet open to full capacity. As a result, a lot of trainers and fitness gurus have started offering online workout sessions. This leaves you with a few options and as a result, a full-body sweat session is only a click away. Exercising is a great way to boost your mood. I always feel amazing after a workout so I know you will too.

Have a Solo Dance Party

Speaking of sweating, a dance party is a fun way to get your heart pumping. Unleash your inner Rachel Platten and belt out your favourite 'Fight Song'. There is a wide variety of upbeat tracks that are all about female empowerment, loving yourself and just being happy. You can literally sing and dance away that looming shadow of loneliness which usually creeps up around this time. Dancing alone at home is a great way to blow off steam. You can dance however you want without judgement and then laugh at yourself in the midst of it.

Take Yourself on a Date

This is something I planned to do last year but the pandemic happened so that idea went out the door. I've always enjoyed having my lunch in solitude, but I don't consider it a date since it usually takes place in the office lunchroom. Taking yourself on a date for Valentine's Day can be considered treating yourself. You would treat this like a regular date meaning you dress up and go have dinner at a fancy restaurant. I would recommend taking a good book with you, so you'll have something to keep you entertained. Put your cell phone aside and take some time to enjoy your own company. If you are fortunate, you might even meet 'the one' while dining alone. I'm kidding about that last part lol. But that would be an interesting story to tell your kids in the future.

“You're always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” - Diane Von Furstenberg

Do Something You've Never Done Before

If there is something you've always wanted to do, you now have an opportunity to do it. Valentine's Day is the perfect time to try something new. It doesn't require a lot of effort to do something new. It can be as simple as ordering something different from the menu of your favourite restaurant. If you are someone who enjoys working with your hands you could try a pottery or jewelry making class. You can also learn how to take amazing photos for social media in a photography class. Valentine's Day is the day of love, but it isn't limited to romantic love. You can show love by volunteering in your community or donating clothes or other items to a home for the needy. If you are more into adventures you could take a road trip and sample local street food along the way.

Embrace Your Singleness

When you are single you are not bound by the obligations of a spouse or significant other. You can use this time to get to know who you are and learn to love that person. Embracing your singleness means that you have accepted the situation and have chosen to not let it define you. Being single has many perks and Valentine's Day is a great time to take advantage of those perks. Your singleness is the time for you to enjoy finding yourself and build lasting friendships. You must be able to love yourself first before seeking someone else to love you.


Being single on Valentine's Day isn't the worst thing in the world. I know it sucks but remember you aren't the only person who is single at this time. It is okay to feel down when single on V-Day, but you should not spend the day moping and feeling sorry for yourself. Make the most of the day by changing your mindset and viewing the day with new eyes. If all else fails, remember that Valentine's Day is one day which will pass in the blink of an eye.

What are your plans for Valentine's Day this year? Tell me in the comments below.

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  • Reply Heather January 29, 2021 at 12:02 pm

    I love this as I am single. Valentine’s Day has always been so emotional for me .

    • Reply Kimberley January 29, 2021 at 8:04 pm

      I understand how you feel. I hope this one turns out great. Thanks for reading!

  • Reply Holly January 29, 2021 at 10:55 am

    Great post! I always think Galentine’s Day is a great alternative to Valentine’s Day! I wrote a post about it on my own blog 🥰

    • Reply Kimberley January 29, 2021 at 8:03 pm

      I always heard about Galentine’s Day but never actually knew what it was until recently so I’ll give it a read.

  • Reply Alyssa January 27, 2021 at 8:04 am

    I have to say self love goes first 🙂 I am moved by this post very encouraging and meaty. Happy Valentines Day to all

    • Reply Kimberley January 27, 2021 at 8:50 am

      I agree with that statement, thanks for reading!

  • Reply Carlyn January 22, 2021 at 8:03 am

    These are great ideas for singles! A lot of people can surely benefit from this

    • Reply Kimberley January 23, 2021 at 6:27 pm

      Thank you so much for reading!

  • Reply Sarah January 19, 2021 at 9:19 am

    I love the idea of taking yourself on a date. I think it’s important to make sure you are taking care of yourself and treating yourself well!

    • Reply Kimberley January 19, 2021 at 9:44 pm

      I completely agree self-care should always be a priority. Thanks for reading!

  • Reply Brandi L Brown January 18, 2021 at 4:20 pm

    These are such great ideas! When I was single on Valentine’s Day before I met my husband, I’d treat myself to a Valentine’s gift like you suggested or have a fun night with my other single girlfriends. I love the idea of trying something new too!

    • Reply Kimberley January 18, 2021 at 9:10 pm

      That’s what I love to hear but sadly many single people view the day as torturous not realizing how great an opportunity they have. Thanks for reading!

  • Reply Candi January 18, 2021 at 11:03 am

    The single-season is a wonderful time. I’m happy I thoroughly enjoyed that time. I’d recommend anyone to take you up on these suggestions. That dance party idea is my favourite.

    • Reply Kimberley January 18, 2021 at 8:50 pm

      Oh yes, it’s my favourite too. Thanks for stopping by!

  • Reply Suzzi January 18, 2021 at 8:31 am

    Love this! As a single girl this was inspiring to read and some great ideas on how to spend it celebrating yourself too

    • Reply Kimberley January 18, 2021 at 8:49 pm

      Thank you! Celebrating yourself is the best thing to do while single. There’s just a certain level of confidence that shines through when you love yourself.

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